Some matters on style are hardly serious (my post yesterday, for instance); and although it’s all important to me, I recognize that a manifesto on belts is not going to change lives. My work with clients is the same. They’ll humor me when I unleash a tirade against capri pants, all the while recognizing that these little niche issues are not outside the closet/larger world relevant. That is, until we reach a place where they are: where style and self-esteem overlap. A notable part of my job (and one I take very seriously) is to show how others see you. As you may guess, it’s not at all what you see.
The Good News- When we look at you, we see the big picture. Your skinny calves, or bigger hips or rounder stomach or broader shoulders are noticeable only to you because you’ve had a lifetime of looking at them! Consider what you see when looking at your stylish friends. Do you zero in on their ‘imperfect’ parts? Has the inner dialog you hear when looking in the mirror ever applied to anyone else? Nobody sees your ‘imperfections’ but you. Additionally, since the grass is always greener, your rounder butt/hips/bigger boobs are often coveted by those with a different body type. Personally, since I’m shaped like an apple, I think women with hips and booty look amazing.
The Bad News- When your style decisions are based solely around covering up or camouflaging one or two parts, when you can’t see the big picture of an amazing outfit because you’re hyper focused on the smallest detail, you are limited (at best) and stunted (at worst). This can be anything from wearing exclusively bootcut jeans because they cover more, to rejecting an outfit because a pocket bulges slightly, to refusing to wear anything loose. Great style is about the entire package, how everything works in careful balance and contrast. Use that critical eye constructively by picking the best pieces possible and focus on seeing you as others do. Your style (and self esteem) will thank you.
Pottery Barn’s Summer sneak peak is available online, and I am obsessed with this Palm (Beach or Springs) sheet set. Those of you familiar with my interior design philosophy know the importance of humor; guest rooms (bath and bed) are the ideal place to make these statements, as they’re separate from the main living quarters and not in use every day.
These sheets aren’t ‘ha ha’ funny, but they’re campy/kitschy. They add personality and, by the gesture, warmth: the perfect way to make a guest feel at home.
Determining your individual, personal style can be a deceptively difficult task, as the simplest questions are often the most complicated to answer. The following are a few of the factors influencing why we dress:
Location– Where you grew up can have a pronounced effect on your style preferences. From different time zones to coasts to countries, you may be surprised to recognize how regional style signifiers continue to inform your taste.
Time– Not surprisingly, when you were born has a strong effect on later style preferences. However, this correlates less to the year or decade of your birth and more to the period of impressionable growth. We absorb our first culture like a sponge and are reacting to it for the rest of our lives.
Experience- This shapes your perspective on everything, and how it relates to personal style is no different. Possible influences can be anything from a trip you took, to a person you loved, to a movie you watched. In my house, Rear Window played often and Grace Kelly’s gorgeous costumes imprinted in ways I would only realize decades later.
What if, after examining all your biographical and cultural influences, you are still unable to identify your style? It’s really not a problem. If your presentation is age-appropriate and inspired while reflecting smart buying choices, thoughtful pairings and contrasts, and your own confidence… You’re exactly where you need to be.
I’ve never believed in keeping a good thing all to myself..
I can’t take credit for finding this gem. My esteemed colleague in style, Jessica Helson of Chelsea, gifted me this lipstick after reading that it, quite miraculously, looks amazing on everyone. And if you’ve been paying attention to the Spring fashion ads, you’ll recognize it as the color of the moment.
A bold lip functions the same as great jewelry or a scarf, red nails or a hat ; it’s the finishing touch on your look, the memorable detail that transforms good to great.
A staple piece for every woman’s closet, the leopard scarf becomes increasingly important as we near Spring. Its unusual pairing with navy, hot pink, bright orange and the other dynamic colors of the upcoming season is unpredictable and, in short, good style.